Women like to be hurt
A week ago, whilst having dinner with a friend we got on to talking about relationship. Well actually it started out with me whining about how some of the things that happen with my ex felt a bit painful. To put it bluntly, that even though we are not in a relationship anymore I still feel hurt by some of the things that my ex do.
Then, while watching the sushi moving on the conveyor belt, he plainly said that my case is ordinary, and the problem simply that, ‘I, like many other girls, like to be hurt’. For a moment I thought he had one too many raw fish and worm has gotten into his head.
Then he continued saying that there are numerous cases of girls staying in an abusive relationship, loveless marriage, and even being physically abused. And even as for me, it wasn’t the first time I whined to him, and yet I still linger and come up with new stories.
His point was, if it was painful then why hung around and willingly exposed to be hurt again? And you know what? I guess my friend was right. I don’t know why I hung around. As embarrassing as it is to admit, there were a number of occasions when I asked my ex to go out even though I know most likely he’ll say that he’s busy doing god’s know what, and every time I’d feel slightly upset, but yet I still do it from time to time. Not to mention the verbal exchange which sometimes I feel uncalled for and rather harsh, but yet then I still most happily nurture my hope that somehow we can found our way together.
Is it really that we like to be hurt, or we simply don’t know when to stop enduring? Maybe we thrive on being the victim, the damsel in distress, hence we allow guys to hurt us.
After all we grew up with abused heroines the likes of Cinderella, Snow white, Sleeping beauty, and none of them could defend themselves and said enough is enough I’m not having any more of this nonsense. It took mighty princes to rescue them from the injustice they suffer.
And I guess it’s more complex when the injustice comes from the mighty princes. Who then is going to rescue us? Well I guess the rescue team will come in a form of friends who reminds you that things are getting too much, and most importantly I guess from ourselves who should dare to say ‘It’s enough, thank you very much’.
Then, while watching the sushi moving on the conveyor belt, he plainly said that my case is ordinary, and the problem simply that, ‘I, like many other girls, like to be hurt’. For a moment I thought he had one too many raw fish and worm has gotten into his head.
Then he continued saying that there are numerous cases of girls staying in an abusive relationship, loveless marriage, and even being physically abused. And even as for me, it wasn’t the first time I whined to him, and yet I still linger and come up with new stories.
His point was, if it was painful then why hung around and willingly exposed to be hurt again? And you know what? I guess my friend was right. I don’t know why I hung around. As embarrassing as it is to admit, there were a number of occasions when I asked my ex to go out even though I know most likely he’ll say that he’s busy doing god’s know what, and every time I’d feel slightly upset, but yet I still do it from time to time. Not to mention the verbal exchange which sometimes I feel uncalled for and rather harsh, but yet then I still most happily nurture my hope that somehow we can found our way together.
Is it really that we like to be hurt, or we simply don’t know when to stop enduring? Maybe we thrive on being the victim, the damsel in distress, hence we allow guys to hurt us.
After all we grew up with abused heroines the likes of Cinderella, Snow white, Sleeping beauty, and none of them could defend themselves and said enough is enough I’m not having any more of this nonsense. It took mighty princes to rescue them from the injustice they suffer.
And I guess it’s more complex when the injustice comes from the mighty princes. Who then is going to rescue us? Well I guess the rescue team will come in a form of friends who reminds you that things are getting too much, and most importantly I guess from ourselves who should dare to say ‘It’s enough, thank you very much’.
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